March update: I’m alive! Flosstube #6 ~ In the counseling corner: mindfulness for anxiety


Hey everyone its Rachel I’m the cross-stitch counselor and It has been quite some time since I’ve been able to film a video I’m coming to you today from the bedroom I’m sitting on my bed My children are home. It’s a Saturday, and they’re out in the living room And they know that mommy’s filming a video, so we’ll see how far we get The last time I talked to you it was January late January and my work work life just Dramatically changed I was working two days a week About 12 to 14 hours a day or sorry in the week Between those two days, and I’m now working every day And I’ve got more like 20 to 25 sessions that I’m doing each week and I just feel like I haven’t had five minutes to myself To make a video! I’ve been Trying to watch floss tube and catch up with with everyone There are some wonderful wonderful new floss tubers that I’m so excited about and we’ll we will do Some charming mentions in a little while as Donna Rae likes to say I Love all of her genteel Categories for things so much nicer than shouting out– I agree, Donna Rae So yes, last night I Watched a lot of floss tube, and it’s just so much fun, you guys bring so much joy to my life, and Yeah, it’s really delightful to be a part of this community. I’ve been trying to Get to know all the floss tubers that are Gonna be at Stitch Con. I’m getting so excited for Stitch Con this summer, and so I’ve been trying to go around and get to know all of you Which has been really really fun, but I have a short amount of time I’ve got about half an hour to get this video done so and so much to catch you up on since January So we’re gonna dive right in. Okay first of all I’d like to show you a WIP that It’s really out of the ordinary for me, it’s not something that I would typically stitch, but it’s It’s something that I’m making for my daughter Natalie. She had her sixth birthday this week and If you are around little girls at all Then you’ll know that Unicorns are having “a moment” Unicorns are everywhere for little girls these days on clothes, purses, notebooks, pens, pencils Stickers, etc. You name it. It’s all about the unicorn and the mermaid and so my sweet daughter is getting a rainbow unicorn for her sixth birthday, it’s nearly done It’s on — um, I’m stitching this on a really pretty 32 count linen and using DMC, and I’m nearly done. I just love the way it’s turning out. I’m gonna do her name down at the bottom in sort of the rainbow colors. It’ll just say Natalie, and I think I may do a little sort of flat fold for this and actually after watching sSome of the market videos, I think it was Donna Rae’s roving reporter video Where she showed Barb and Alma, Blackbird Designs and how they do color photocopies at FedEx of their stitching and make little extra things with them –they’ll frame the color picture, reduce it down or decoupage, Modge podge it on a little box. I had the idea of before I finish this I could color copy it and maybe reduce it down into like a little necklace that she could wear or maybe a little treasure box. Natalie loves like little treasures and little small things. So I thought that would be really kind of a fun idea to play with other ways you could use this stitching For her, but this has been Really fun. I’ve been working on this just about a week and close to finish– close to being finished And I got that pattern from Etsy from Lucky Star stitches and it was Really inexpensive, and I got a PDF download Okay um Real quick I did Have a couple little finishes in like late January early February this is a La-D-Da Christmas ornament from I think the 2007 just cross stitch Ornaments. It’s on a 32 count black linen Cute little ornament that I need to FFO and a couple of my earlier videos I’ve showed this a few times birds of a feather “Black Santa”: I finally did finish him up and I’m making him for my son, Connor For his Christmas ornament, so I’d like to probably put his initials on there, but yay Black Santa finally got finished Okay more WIPs Prairie Schooler Evergreen I put this on Instagram A whole bunch, and I’m making progress, I really really wanted to finish this in February, and it just didn’t happen But I’ve got six of the nine motifs done, so I’m two-thirds of the way there Stitching it on 32 count dirty linen Can’t get the hang of the camera being like backwards from what you think Really fun a lot of stitching and these motifs lots of kind of full coverage with the with the different Animals and so forth so it’s actually quite a lot of stitching. It’s taking a lot longer than I thought but It’s a very limited color palette So you don’t have a lot of color switching and that makes it kind of an easier piece to take on the go I usually stitch on this when my kids are in piano practice And I’ve gotten a lot done that way so Yay, I’m probably putting this one away for a little bit so that I can make some other progress on other WIPS Okay Prairie Schooler Evergreen C Street sampler works Quaker Medallion Sampler show you where I am with this one There we go, okay, I finished the Alphabets Hooray! I Love this piece. I um I didn’t have any trouble with the specialty stitches up here Oops see if I can get it, there we go. There’s some really pretty Eyelets and Gosh I think Algerian eyelet? I forget what all is in here But those were fine, but then these call for satin stitches and I had them in there And I didn’t like how they were so I ripped them out. I’m gonna try different method that a friend from Guilde, Laurie, hi Laurie ,if you’re watching she told me to do one Thread and then stitch over it with the second thread instead of doing stitching two threads at a time So I’m gonna try it that way see if I can make those stitches lay a little flatter and then it’s on to the Quaker motifs, which I think hopefully will go pretty quickly but I adore this piece. I really really really like it Yay Beatrix Potter Needleprint (Now owned by Stitchy Box) So this last video I’m stitching this on 30 – I told you all the last time I forget I’ll have to look it up again I Can’t remember the fabric Golden promise, I think 32 count and it is Victoria motto threads, and I just did Two little two little bits That’s all I got to Just here, and here– and actually I Was stitching this and Spilled a whole glass of water all over it with these Fancy floss and it did run just a tiny little bit Right there. You see it ran a little tiny tiny bit Actually, I actually spilled a whole glass of water all over my entire Stitching basket and a lot of things got wet, it was It was crazy These were that this was the only thing that ran. I’m not stressing about it this also discolored, just a little bit, right there I Feel like it almost looks a little Antique, I don’t know I’m okay I’m okay with it. What do y’all think? Let me know. I think it’s fine Okay, I’m so excited to show you my progress with “And a forest grew” I have it not very much but I talk have talked about it a lot, and I don’t think I’ve shown it I Showed you the fabric last time But I’ve put in a few stitches There it is I’m terrible at this okay here we go — I have a question For y’all and that is okay, this is 36 count I’m stitching with one thread over two and It does look Almost kind of watercolor it’s not very vibrant With the one thread And I’m kind of considering going back over what I’ve done with a second thread and Just seeing — or maybe starting a new little section with two threads and seeing what the difference is like. After watching Jo, PrettySouthern, she said that Darlene at Acorns and Threads said that 36 count is kind of a transitional count and that you can do one thread pretty easily or you can do two threads and She showed her Plum Street Samplers “Heritage Sampler” Hi, Jo, if you’re watching, I love that. I love how it kind of popped like the thicker Stitching on the 36 count And now I’m a little indecisive because I’ve only got this tiny bit. It’ll be easy to go back over it with the second thread opinions thoughts Comments, what do y’all think? I don’t know, I don’t know, but I do know that I love this pattern, I love the fabric and I think it’s gonna be amazing And I’m so happy to be stitching it with Abby, Top Knot Stitcher, her “teeny tiny forest” and I know there’s others of you who are Gonna join along or have already joined along I think there’s a hashtag on Instagram if you’re stitching this leave me a comment and let me know I’m speaking of Abby She sent me a great card in the mail San Fran Isn’t that pretty? With a lovely little note.
You’ll know she’s a penpal stitcher and does stitchy mail with lots of people as you guys probably know because she’s super popular and awesome and I’m so happy to be your friend, Abby Just, little sidebar I would love to do that with more of y’all um I had a sweet exchange with Christine calico stitcher in The fall and she sent me some lovely fall goodies Thanks again for that Christine and that was just such a fun fun treat so if you would like to be Stitchy pen pals with me, please, let me know I would love to exchange cards and Yeah, send me your address. I think that that would be fun and delightful oh One other thing I was going to show you guys for “And a Forest Grew” is how I’ve been storing my floss so I Bought this great box for two dollars and fifty cents at Michaels it has Really pretty birds and leaves and branches and things And I made a nifty little Name tag for it, and I totally got this idea from my friend Sharon, Magnolia Nana Hi Sharon, if you’re watching. I love your floss tube and you put this up –this idea, up Several videos ago, but it is a great way to organize Floss if you have a lot of floss for a project little snack size ziplock bags In numerical order a couple at a time And have them all in here like a little filing system There you go, cause, it’s like, 100 something colors So I’m stitching along and you have to change colors all the time in this piece. It’s like oh, I’m 918 There’s my 918 and you get out what you need And then you put it back in I need 3011 now there we go 3011 Isn’t that great, so I did it kind of grouped together about three two or three Per bag, little snack size bags. They fit in there, there you go! So Sharon, thank you for that amazing idea Acquisitions purchases, I joined a couple of Fabric of the month and My brain is not working very well today. I joined a fabric of the Month Club. It is picture this plus hand dyed fabrics I’ve gotten two so far. I’m doing the 32 counts From Needlecraft Corner in Baltimore, and I’ve gotten Sterling and Sprite a really pretty gray and kind of a lilac This is like, the happiest mail, to get gorgeous fabric once a month Love it. I also joined the Colour and Cotton hand dyed threads And I love love-love-love Take it out of the plastic here The first shipment of some pretty kind of earth tones Dried sage. fresh wool. Inkwell, which is kind of a pretty bluish gray grayish blue clay pot And Wildwood really pretty variation yeah, anyway, oo! I’m so excited to get those every month a couple other little purchases to show I Was very enabled by Nicole of Nicole’s needlework and also, PrettySouthern And I got this birds of a feather Sally Spencer sampler Several folks have been stitching this. I love it. I hope to start that pretty soon I Picked up in February the February WordPlay. I have a few of these have been starting to collect them I love them on Stash Unload, I got an old Prairie schooler, number 43, Father Christmas I like those kind of old world-y looking Santa’s and plum street samplers Yuletide welcome Which I feel like even though it says: “A Yuletide welcome to thee” And there’s like some reindeer and a little Santa There’s this big yellow house and lots of flowers And I feel like this is the type of Christmas project that I get to stitch year-round, and it wouldn’t feel too Christmasy, but love that Also Got some Heartstring Samplery Humility sampler Lots of blues –I love blue, my kitchen is blue And simple living sampler crazy about that I Love the verse on this I still find each day too short for all the thoughts I want to think All the walks, I want to take all the books. I want to read and all the friends. I want to see I Love that that is completely my motto And I picked up the farmhouse Christmas I Have been putting off stitching these because I don’t know What fabric I want to use I’m really wanting to do it kind of tiny like maybe 40 count or maybe Over one on a bigger count. I haven’t quite decided and Then I’m crazy in love with all of Beth’s little Tiny little fobs. I want to stitch all of these, for all the people… I love them. I’m gonna collect those too. I Think that’s about it for my acquisitions. I have a super long wish list of market Delights. All the Heartstring Samplery, all the Plum Street Sampler Goodies Everybody’s in love with milk and cream. I’m in love with milk and cream.. company.. that one. I Can’t wait to go to my LNS, I haven’t had time to get there yet and All the Blackbird Designs, oh my gosh, this year’s market It’s just the best and it’s been such a fun treat to see Everybody sharing stuff on Flosstube. all right um I’m trying to keep this video kind of short I Think that that is all I wanted to share, stitchy-wise. I did want to do some charming mentions I’ve already said hello To my friend Sharon, Magnolia Nana, she’s just such a treat she’s local and Goes way back with my family, my mother-in-law and It’s so fun that She’s doing Flosstube. Sharon, you gotta come over and have some tea with me, and let’s make a Flosstube together Let’s drink tea, and you’re in England right now. I’m so jealous. You’re Eating and drinking and touring all over the UK with your lovely daughter, and I just want to be with you on your journeys So if you guys don’t know Sharon yet go check her out I wanted to say some other charming mentions, I mean everybody in the world is shouting out or mentioning Donna Rae, flannel jammies farm, I love Donna Rae on Instagram, and it was such a fun treat that you joined Flosstube started making videos and now you’re doing them so frequently it’s such a treat I think you are such a lovely soul your house is so beautiful your stitching is so lovely your little stitching spot I just Love everything about you your your urban farm your homesteading tips your beekeeping Your herb drying, your sauerkraut making, all of it all of it. I love it , Donna Rae! Even just getting a glimpse at Your friends and Just the fun stitching companions that you have I hope That as time goes by I’m able to develop those stitching friends more and more oh andyour hairstyle is so cool [whisper] anyway, Donna Rae, I love you. night owl stitcher I’m lovin lovin Yvonne. PrettySouthern, I’ve already said MellyElly Stitches, I’m kind of new to her Channel hi Melly, Oh, you are adorable and delightful, and I love all your projects and your cozy little stitching spot with your candle it’s very cozy and I’m really glad I found you. Amy loves toads: I’m so happy to have found you as well. I know you were a little bit nervous on your last video, but you did awesome and your VW Collection is incredible and your family seems so cool and your projects are really really neat, so keep making the videos, Amy. I wanted to say hi to Let’s see, SammyJ, Found her through the Stitch Con website, she’s a fellow, Texas stitcher and Heather Moore also Another Texas local gal Heather. I hope that we get to meet sometime soon. I love all your Lizzie Kate’s and All your cute projects that you’re doing Okay Also new to me is Elena B, hi, Elena and Your red lipstick is just –the BEST– and I love your Fun spirit and all your cool projects. I really enjoyed your last few videos Okay, I think that’s it for right now in terms of Charming mentions, but I also wanted to do a quick little counseling corner. I’ve got like five minutes I’ve been thinking that I’d like to share with you guys just a quick little intervention for anxiety My friend Michelle, cozy egg, at Guild, this last week, said that she thinks a lot of stitchers struggle with anxiety, and I’m sure that’s probably true So yeah I’m not gonna try to talk about Too much about anxiety in general this video, maybe I will a little bit more next time But when you are feeling anxious, this is an intervention that you can do That is kind of mindfulness based if you’re at all familiar with that technique, and it’s the acronym:RAIN, like Rain, R-A-I-N, and Essentially what this is designed to do is it’s to help you Observe your feelings non-judgmentally and To not identify with them to not feel like they’re a part of you so much so that you can kind of notice what’s going on with them and It’s designed to help you Kind of knock off that layer of being anxious about being anxious so if any of you struggle with anxiety And you start to have that feeling come up, and then you realize oh, no, I’m getting anxious and that makes me anxious I’m so anxious that I’m anxious That’s kind of a typical experience with anxiety and it can be Pretty overwhelming. It starts to snowball, it’s pretty frustrating When you have that anxiety about anxiety and you can just remember “RAIN” in that moment. So the R stands for Recognize what you are feeling, So just name it you know. Oh, this is anxiety. “Hey there, anxiety, I know you. I remember you, we’re old friends.” This is anxiety ,so you recognize it, you don’t judge it. You don’t then say No, I I’m feeling anxious I’m not allowed to feel anxious or this is so terrible that I’m feeling anxious or I can’t believe I’m feeling anxious It’s just like hey Anxiety what’s up? There you are, I recognize you. And then “A” is for “allow” — allow the experience to be there just as it is so it’s it’s kind of like an acceptance posture like I recognize this, it’s anxiety, I’m okay with that. I’m going to allow it to be there Even invite it in, “come on in, anxiety have a seat, Sit down, have a cup of tea with me. Would you like a scone?” You talk to it, you invite it in– Invite it in, allow it to be there,almost like a friend– You know, honor the feeling. Treat it like a guest. All of our emotions are Welcome guests Emotions are there to serve us, to help us, they are not there to… Defeat us. Any emotion should be welcomed. Okay, so “R”: Recognize. “A” allow. “I” … Investigate with kindness… So we’re sitting down. We’re having a cup of tea with our anxiety We’re gonna ask it:Why are you here? Why are you here? What do you have to tell me today? What useful information are you providing how can I… Listen to this feeling? What does it want to say? So investigate just be curious about it.
“Hmm, I wonder why this anxiety is present, I wonder What’s in my heart? What’s on my mind? What am I thinking about? What’s it here for?” Okay, and then the N stands for natural awareness, which if you have named it accepted it Investigated it and curious about it then hopefully the end result is you have sort of this natural mindful awareness of yourself that comes from Not identifying with your emotion your emotion is there.. you’re mindful about it. ..You’re not judging it.. You’re just letting it be present. It’s there to serve you in some way to tell you something you’re free to Disagree you’re free to act differently you don’t have to do what that emotion Is directing you to do. But it’s always helpful and wise to listen to our feelings So and you know what you can use this acronym, “RAIN,” This kind of mindful approach, for other Negative emotions as well. I don’t really like calling it negative, but other emotions that are potentially distressing to you whether that’s anger or frustration or Insecurity or fear Other emotions like that you can be mindful about them and treat them as guests invite them to tea Say, “come on in, have a cup with me. Let’s let’s figure out what’s going on.” I hope that’s helpful for you Just a quick little Counseling corner moment for you Gosh, it’s so good to sit down make a video. I’m gonna try to be a little more intentional about filming more regularly I got to find a good day for me it might be Saturdays from here on out since I’m working every day now, so hope to find a new rhythm, and to share with you more often Thank you for coming by, love you guys, and talk to you soon!

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